Tuesday, October 15, 2019

What are the Chakras ?

 If you were able to see the chakras- as many clairvoyant psychics do, we would observe a wheel otf energy continuously revolving or rotating in a direction. As a clairvoyant and energy healer. I personally see and feel the energies of  the chakras as colorful wheels that each  depict unique variations of colors/energies, and each one tells a story. 

The 7 primary chakras form a line from the base of the spine to the top of the head. Although fixed in the central spinal column, they are located on both the front and back of your body.

Each chakra vibrates or rotates at different speeds. The Base or 1st chakra rotates at the slowest speed and the crown or 7th chakra rotates at the highest speed. Chakras are stimulated by colors. The colors vary by wavelength and frequency and range from bright, translucent colors at the higher end of the spectrum to darker shades of brown, smoky gray and light to dark black at the lower end of the spectrum. The size of the chakra wheels also differs according to individual development, physical condition, energy levels, and your lifestyle.

The health of your chakras affects your physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual well being. When the chakras are not balanced or when the flow of energy through the body is blocked or slowed down at one chakra point or another the basic life force within slows down. As a result you may feel tired, sad, unmotivated, or depressed. Over time, if this energy doesn't properly flow, you may develop  physical or mental distress or worse...

With that being said, some of us react to bad life experiences by closing ourselves and blocking our feelings. This literally reduces a great deal of our natural energy flow. This affects the healthy, maturation and development of the chakras. Whenever we block a painful experience, we are in turn blocking our energy/chakras which eventually becomes disfigured, discolored, and drained of energy. 

When The Chakras are Balanced:
When the chakras are functioning well each one will be open and spinning clockwise to metabolize the particular energies needed for each individual energy center. When they are healthy and balanced, our lives are filled with joy, happiness, and purpose.

As a healer, I use different methods customized to fit Your needs. If you feel that this form of healing would benefit you, feel free to contact me for any questions! To book a session click the link below. 

Thursday, October 10, 2019

Free Chakra Test! Find out which Chakras are Blocked

Cleansing Your Energy Could Be the Key to Creating the Life You have Always Wanted.

Is your financial situation, relationships, or your physical and mental health crumbling down right before your eyes?

Does it seem like every decision you make only leads to more stress, anxiety and problems?

For many of us, our lives are filled with countless challenges, struggles, and painful experiences. Often times it may even feel as if you’re sitting in the backseat of a car, while your life is spinning out of control. However, what if I told you that the answer to all the pain, anxiety, and stress you’re experiencing could be solved by giving your body a simple chakra tune-up?

What if I told you that by balancing your blocked chakras, you could easily grab the steering wheel and regain complete control of your life?

It may seem like I’m being overly simplistic, but nobody ever said life had to be so difficult. Each and every one of us has 7 chakras within our body and these chakras are the keys to unlocking our true potential in different aspects of our lives. The goal is to have all 7 chakras in perfect harmony and balance, but even just opening up one blocked chakra can produce a tremendous positive impact…turning your entire life around.

 I would like to help you diagnose which blocked chakras are responsible for the different problems you may be experiencing. Please take a moment and reflect on some of the challenges you've experienced this past year, month, week, or even this very day.

Are you experiencing problems with your physical health?
Do you find yourself procrastinating all the time and never seem to accomplish your goals?
Are money issues or your home a constant trigger of stress and anxiety for you?
Do you physically hurt yourself?
Have you ever attempted or contemplated suicide?
If you answered “yes” to any of the questions above, your troubles may be caused by a blocked or unbalanced base / root chakra ( First Chakra)

Do you find yourself emotionally unstable?
Do you tend to hide or control your feelings?
Are you lacking creativity and the ability to think outside the box?
Is it difficult for you to be open to intimacy?
Do you have sexual issues?
Is it difficult for you to live in the present moment?
If you answered “yes” to any of the questions above, you may have a blocked or unbalanced sacral chakra (2nd Chakra)

Do you seem to have a lack of focus in life and an inability to concentrate?
Are you constantly worried about what other people think?
Do you seem to have a lack of self-esteem and confidence in yourself?
Is your mind often clouded and you find it hard to make decisions?
Do you find yourself taking on more responsibility than you can reasonably handle?
Are you often obsessed with making sure everything you do is perfect?
Is it difficult for you to be alone?
If you answered “yes” to any of the above questions, your trouble may be linked to your solar plexus chakra (3nd Chakra)

Do you have difficulty accepting yourself the way you are?
Are you experiencing a lack of freedom in your life?
Do you have difficulty making up your mind and find yourself indecisive?
Are you always saying “yes” to other people’s demands and requests?
Is it difficult for you to “put your foot down” and simply say “no” to people?
Do you fear rejection or being abandoned by other people?
Do you struggle with jealousy and find yourself envious of others?
If you answered “yes” to any of the above questions, you may need to open or balance your heart chakra (4th Chakra)

Do you have difficulty expressing yourself and your beliefs?
Do you lack trust in others?
Does your life lack organization?
Do you constantly worry about financial security and constantly chase material things?
Are you shy by nature and have trouble holding a conversation with other people?
If you answered “yes” to any of the questions above, this could be linked to a blocked or unbalanced throat chakra (5th Chakra)

Do you lack intuition or insight in life?
Are you constantly hanging onto negative thoughts and find it difficult to overcome fear or anxiety?
Do you find yourself living in a fantasy or dream world and not in reality?
Do you struggle with depression or always feel lonely?
Are you too hard on yourself and lack self-pride?
If you answered “yes” to any of the questions above, you may need to open or balance your third eye chakra (6th Chakra)

Does your life lack spirituality or a connection to God?
Do you lack a sense of purpose in life?
Do you lack faith in any religion or form of spirituality because you are too caught up with yourself or ego?
If you answered “yes” to any of the questions above, you may need to open or balance your crown chakra (7th Chakra)

Hopefully you are now able to properly diagnose yourself, and identify which of your chakras are blocked or unbalanced. This is the first step in overcoming any challenges you may be experiencing. All there is left to do now is learn how to open your chakras and properly balance them.

There are many different methods to do this including chakra healing, chakra meditation, and even Reiki. However, these methods are primarily geared towards the advanced practitioner, and require a spiritual guru with vast experience in chakra training. For this reason, having proper guidance is extremely important when attempting to open and balance your chakras.

What if I told you that you could have someone take you by the hand and walk you through the process?

Tuesday, September 10, 2019

Healing Energy Cords for Improving Relationships

Energy cords can be a temporary telepathic and energetic link between two people. Cords aren't necessarily bad however if you find yourself constantly thinking of someone in particular, you may form a cord that will drain you and make you feel bad for no reason.
Energy cords show themselves as that surge that you get when you connect with someone. It depends hugely on the person, the circumstances, and on your openness to the feeling.

Cords can form between people, objects, and situations where there is a fearful attachment, afraid to let go, scared to be alone, afraid to be without. These are invisible energy links. We normally cord to other people and also allow them to cord to us throughout the course of our everyday lives. Many of these cords are short lived and dissolve quickly. There are some however, normally the intensive, volatile, or the longer term relationships, that create cords and with a build-up of numerous energies and emotions, such as desire, need, love, anger, jealousy, envy etc. These cords can create problems in the form of aches and pains, depression, rage, exhaustion, burn-out etc.

It is normal for parents to form cords with their babies, this is both a necessity and a positive thing, as these cords help parents communicate with and understand their baby’s needs. Healthy cords dissolve naturally over a period of time, as the child grows.  Negative cords feed the energy and emotions of one person to another, both positive and negative, so you may be feeling particularly angry and not know why, you may also be feeling depressed for no apparent reason. Cords are normally formed on a subconscious level, through a person’s need for strength, manipulation, control.

If you have decided to move on from a relationship and you find it particularly difficult to “let-go” it may be that there are cords of attachment from the other person holding you back. A person going through a divorce may be feeding their anger, rage, stress, and jealousy to the other person and vice versa. Without realising it, parents feed these emotions to their children and partners, creating all sorts of problems for everyone. If you have a cord attached to someone you love and that person is going through a major crisis, they may be draining energy from you. So you will feel drained without knowing why. In this case some healthy boundaries need to be created. 

Cutting Cords for Healing-
Removing a cord is a process:
1.unplugging the cord
2.disposing of the cord
3.cleansing and healing the anchor point / attachment point.
In energy cord work, there is more than the healing practitioner and the client involved – there are others at the opposite end of each cord and they too must be taken cared for.
Cutting cords doesn't necessarily lead to break-ups or abandoned relationships, unless that is what you are seeking. Cord cutting will help you move forward with confidence and clarity since it releases the dysfunctional parts of your relationships. Fear is the opposite of love, and all attachments are created from fear.

I use high frequency spiritual light to heal the areas where the cords were attached and create a shield around each chakra to prevent further attachments.

Emotional Cord Cutting sessions can be performed in-person and via distant healing.

Enjoy the freedom and empowerment of an Emotional Cord Cutting today! 
Cindy is available to perform her services in-person, or via distant healing. You will receive the same powerful effects as an in-person Emotional Cord Cutting.

Cutting cords doesn't mean, "I don't love you or care about you anymore." Cord cutting doesn't necessarily lead to break-ups or abandoned relationships. It simply means that you are releasing the dysfunctional parts of your relationships. Remember, fear is the opposite of love, and etheric cords (and all attachments) are created from fear”. Doreen Virtue

Wednesday, July 3, 2019

Clear Negative Energy from Psychic Attack

What is a Psychic Attack?
In simple terms, a psychic attack is negative energy that someone sends with the intention to inflict harm upon you, your life or your family. It is the assault upon your aura, without your conscious permission, by another person, thing or group. It will leave you feeling open, exposed, vulnerable and sometimes, you will feel a sense of danger and anxiety or panic attacks. Harm can be launched towards your emotional, physical, spiritual or mental state. A psychic attack is used to harm a person by manipulating and controlling them, by sending negative energy toward them. This mental manipulation is done without your knowledge and it can cause physical symptoms similar to an illness as well as depressed mood, anxiety and at times, suicidal thoughts. This negative energy can be in a form of a spirit, an entity, a thought form or dark energy.

What's going on?
From a psychological standpoint, you seem to be anxious and depressed. But from the point of view of Energy Medicine, you could very well be under psychic attack. Yes, consciously or unconsciously, someone may have formed an intention to harm you.
Maybe you have a mother-in-law who hates the fact that you stole away her precious son or daughter. Don't discount the "evil  eye" she gives you whenever she can. Maybe you've got an ex whose negativity towards you is still strong, even years after the break up. Or a "frenemy" who's jealous  because you still fit into the jeans you wore in high school. Everyone, like it or not, has some darkness within, the infamous "shadow side" that is the storehouse of negative emotions and feelings. When these disturbing emotions are not acknowledged and released, the shadow side can get in the driver's seat. That negative energy can, in fact, cause real problems for someone else.
Symptoms of Negative Energy and Psychic Attack
Extreme Anxiety and Depression: A rational explanation may not be evident to you when you feel frozen by fear. This is a similar feeling to a panic attack, but it can last much longer. Rapid breathing, fast heartbeat, sweating, and nervousness are all symptoms of anxiety, but not being able to leave your home for days due to intense fear is a sign of a psychic attack.
Frightening Dreams: Chase dreams where you're being chased and attacked by either a known or unknown entity. The one thing you know in this dream is that if you let him/it/her catch you, you're dead. So, in these dreams, you are constantly dodging, ducking, running and hiding.
Shaking and Trembling. This reaction usually occurs during or after an attack. The person may or may not realize why s/he's suddenly shaking. From a subconscious level, where the assault is realized, this is a perfectly normal reaction because, whether you knew it or not, your adrenaline is flowing high and fast--the "fight or flight" hormones. A part of you wants to run. Usually, in this type of situation, you don't connect consciously with what is really going on subliminally between you and the psychic assaulter--until later.
Health problems. A specific organ of the body is chosen and energy is sent in, like a sledgehammer, to shut it (and the chakra) down once and for all. Usually, if the person or group mean business (to kill you), they target your heart to create a heart attack. If it doesn't work, and you're getting protection, it may end up as lung congestion, bronchitis, or pneumonia. It can also be any organ in the body. If it was working fine and you suddenly get assaultive pain with it, on and off, for "no reason", then you need to see your doctor. If the doc gives you a bill of good health, then you might be under psychic attack!
Pessimism. If you are normally an optimistic or idealistic person and your thoughts suddenly turn rancidly pessimistic, hopeless, angry, irritated, impatient, then you need to understand that this isn't the 'real' you, but you are reacting to something that you may not consciously realize that is going on. During long term attacks, a person can literally, change personality from an sunny, extrovert person to a moody, morose, depressed, negative individual--but it happens over a number of weeks or months and they really don't see it happening. It is usually brought to their attention by the spouse or family members.
Clear Negative Energy and Protect your Aura
If you believe you are absorbing negative energies or are the recipient of psychic attacks, you should consider asking for the help of an energy healer who is experienced in clearing and cleansing AND Cutting Cords to these negative energies, entities and spirits.
**Please feel free to share in the comments below if you've ever had a psychic attack and what you did to help yourself deal better. Looking forward to hearing from you!

Need Professional Help?
As spiritual energy is not limited by time and space, distant healing becomes possible. Distant healing is especially useful when there are physical or geographic limitations. Distant healing are calming and promote the release of stress. They can also be revitalizing and help speed up recovery times for physical, mental, emotional and spiritual issues.

Wednesday, May 29, 2019

Heal your Chakras with Crystals and Gemstones

Vital energy flows and intersects through our chakras.  Through our Chakras, we transmit and receive physical, emotional, and spiritual energy.  I personally use crystals and stones  to clear, revitalize, and balance chakras. Most stones of a specific color will be the stone for healing a particular chakra, some stones may be used to heal more than one chakra. There are many stones for each chakra, and various crystals may be particularly powerful may heal in different ways. There is a wide range of healing attributes that pertain to various stones. Below is a popular chakra stone set. One stone for each major chakra.
Chakra Set Includes the 7 Gemstones displayed in the images provided which include:

1st Chakra: Red Jasper activates the Base Chakra and stimulates the seven chakras, cleansing and strengthening the aura. It is a stone of passion, useful for restoring and rejuvenating the libido, and in manifesting creative ideas. (Red)
2nd Chakra: Carnelian is a stabilizing and energizing stone that helps you to find inner strength, courage and abundance. (Reddish Orange)
3rd Chakra: Tigers Eye Stone is a crystal with lovely bands of yellow-golden color through it. This is a powerful stone that aids harmony and balance, and helps you to release fear and anxiety. It stimulates taking action, and helps you to make decisions with discernment and understanding, and unclouded by your emotions. (Bands of Golden Yellow)
4th Chakra: Rose quartz is considered a master healer when it comes to all love related matters – be it lack of self love or painful romantic love experiences. Because rose quartz is so powerfully connected to the heart chakra, and because it constantly radiates a soothing flow of love, this is the absolute best healer or the heart stone. (Soft Pink)
5th Chakra: Lapis Lazuli resonates with the vibration of truth and enlightenment, and are powerful intense blue stones for opening the third eye and stimulating the pineal gland. (Blue)
6th Chakra: Amethyst activates spiritual awareness, opens intuition and enhances psychic abilities. Creates clarity of mind, calming. (Purple)
7th Chakra: Fluorite promotes spiritual and psychic wholeness and development, protection, and brings peace. It helps one meditate and learn to go past the "chatter" that our minds tend to generate when first learning to meditate. Fluorite protects psychically as a psychic shield, protect from chaotic vibrations by evening them out in an orderly manner. It is used to clear energy fields and auric cleansing in particular.  (Color varies from Green to rainbow to purple.

With an increasing number of people working from their residence, the home office has become an important area, which can be greatly improved by adding a few healing crystals. All of our Healing Crystals for sale are charged with Reiki healing energy. All crystals are intuitively hand selected to get the most powerful crystals. Having crystals in your home, office, meditation area, bedroom and other spaces helps you to draw positive energy into your life. They bring healing, purifying and uplifting energy that naturally comes from Earth. These energy crystals help to harmonize energy, bringing peace and balance to your life.
Each chakra is aligned with a its own energy center in our body. The clearing of these energy centers can promote inner peace and balance. When the chakras are balanced, the entire body works in harmony, making us feel more energized, vibrant, elevated, and whole. Crystals have been long used for healing purposes and serve as excellent aids in spiritual practices. 
Smudging can be useful when you're feeling depressed, angry, resentful, unwell or after you have had an argument with someone. It is common to smudge yourself, the space and all the guests or participants before a ritual or ceremony or celebration. You can smudge your home or work space as part of a general spiritual housecleaning, and you can cleanse crystals or other objects of any negative or lingering energy with a smudging ritual.
♥ Cleansing Your Crystals and Stones ♥ 
Your gemstone(s) will work best when it is cleared and cleansed. Here are some recommended ways to cleanse your healing crystals:
1. Place your crystal on the soil or branches of a houseplant for 24 hours.
2. Place your crystal outside under the sun or full moon for at least 4 hours.
3. Steadily hold your crystal in the smoke of a burning Sage  stick or Palo Santo stick.
4. Lay your crystal on a piece of Selenite or Clear Quartz  for at least 6 hours.
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Tuesday, January 13, 2015

Personal Power Chakra the Solar Plexus

The Solar Plexus chakra is located below the breast bone and is the third of the major chakras. It is located in the stomach between the base of the sternum and the navel. This chakra is the area where responsibility for others, caring for others, personal honor and courage emerge Sometimes called the power chakra. The energy of this chakra is about your personal power and self esteem, manifestation, and feeling centered. This chakras meaning is all about the concept of 'the will'. The solar plexus chakra relate to self confidence, self esteem, the ego, personal power, self worth, clarity and self control. Improving energy flow to the solar plexus may clear problems that have been producing lack and limitations. It is also a powerful area to bring an improvement in your finances as its energy aids you to manifest money. As you improve the energy flow here, you will develop stronger will power, more confidence and improve your ability to manifest.

Balanced Chakra: A healthy and open Solar Plexus chakra glows warmly like the fire this chakra represents. You are a warm hearth of inner confidence, show respect towards others and yourself. You will be very calm and centered.

Unbalanced Chakra: Blockage in the solar plexus chakra mean you likely feel easily depressed, rejected and possibly wanting to blame others for your insecurity feelings. You are willing to change to suit the needs and wants of others to be more accepted as you need reassurance and to be in the good opinion of others.

Saturday, May 24, 2014

Reiki Natural Healing Benefits

Imagine every cell in your body vibrating with energy.  Reiki energy stimulates cells to vibrate at higher frequencies.  When this energy becomes affected by interference it influences the vibration or energy of your cells and can reduce their performance, which may eventually lead to disease.

Reiki inherits to its natural strength that 'vivifies' (quickens and enlivens) everything. Reiki treatments raise the vibrational frequency of the beneficiary and clears blockages that disrupt the energy flow, allowing healing to begin at a cellular level. The energy supply is immeasurable. It is unaffected by the channels and flows through him/her to wherever needed in the receiver. The nature of Reiki is that it can only be beneficial.

As healing continues, the client may (probably will) start to look at areas of his/her life that have been difficult in some way and take practical steps to address these issues. This of course will affect the people around the client who might prefer the situation to remain unchanged. 

Reiki Benefits:
· Dissolves energy blocks and promotes natural balance between mind, body and spirit
· Increases energy levels
· Creates deep relaxation and helps the body release stress and tension
· Clears the mind and improves focus
· Accelerates the body's self-healing ability

Tuesday, February 18, 2014

Healing Foods for the 7 Chakras

Chakras (Sanskrit word for "wheels") are subtle centers in the energetic system of a living organism that take in and give out energy. Health is determined by the flow of energy from the 7 chakras into the metabolic network of the body. Blocked chakras, due to emotional, mental, and/or spiritual issues, can restrict energy flow and lead to illness.
Foods—especially foods that share colors with the chakras—carry vibrations that can activate or balance your chakras.

1) The Root chakra is the home of a stable, slow vibration that enables one to be grounded in the workings of the world on a physical level. A healthy root chakra promotes core feelings of being part of a community, and it anchors the body in feelings of trust, safety, and protection.
Health Associations: Responsible for body systems that provide physical structure, allowing for meaningful contact with the Earth: joints, bones, muscle, legs, and feet. Oversees the "boundaries" of the body through an internal and external defense system represented by the immune system and skin.
 Root Chakra Healing Foods: Protein (especially animal protein), root vegetables, edible and medicinal mushrooms, red-colored foods (apples, pomegranates, etc.) 

2) The Sacral chakra houses the dynamic, creative force that circulates creativity, sexuality, sensuality, and emotions through all layers of the self. A healthy sacral chakra will assist in wielding and manifesting raw creativity into an external form, including through relationships with others. A healthy sacral chakra allows us to "go with the flow" of life.
Health Associations: Responsible for the liquid functions of the body: kidneys, bladder, large intestine. Oversees the "creativity" of the body through the uterus, fallopian tubes, and ovaries, as well as cell division and growth.
Sacral Chakra Healing Foods: Fats and oils, fish (especially wild-caught salmon), tropical fruits, seeds, nuts, orange-colored foods (oranges, tangerines, carrots, etc.)

3) The Solar Plexus chakra contains fiery, transformative energy that radiates the essence of the self to the outside world, harmonizing the inner and outer environments. A healthy solar plexus chakra will manifest as a brilliant expression of personal power accompanied by balanced energy flow and clear perceptions of life situations.
Health Associations: Responsible for the transformative functions of the body, including the digestive organs: esophagus, stomach, pancreas, small intestines, liver, and gallbladder. Oversees the "energy exchange" of the body through the generation of ATP, the body’s physical currency of energy, which is supplied by cell structures known as mitochondria (often referred to as "powerhouses of the cell").
Solar Plexus Chakra Healing Foods: Carbohydrates (complex), fiber, whole grains, legumes, yellow-colored foods (yellow sweet peppers, yellow lentils, corn, etc.)      

4) The Heart chakra emits a loving, compassionate rhythm that translates pure feeling into emotional wisdom, discernment, and kindness. A healthy heart chakra will funnel love into a healing salve for all, including self, others, and the planet.
Health Associations: Responsible for the circulatory functions of the body, including the heart, lungs, lymphatic system, and blood vessels. Oversees the "nurturing" functions of the body through the breasts, shoulders, arms, and hands.
Heart Chakra Healing Foods: Vegetables (especially cruciferous vegetables like broccoli, kale, cabbage, and leafy greens), sprouts, raw foods, foods rich in chlorophyll, plant compounds like phytoestrogens and phytosterols, any green-colored foods.

5) The Throat chakra contains a communicative vibration that resonates truth. This voice acknowledges free will and the senses, and it gives us our ability to make decisions and to surrender to a higher spiritual presence. A healthy throat chakra will serve as the portal to communicate and express the emotions, thoughts, and feelings of the other chakras through sound in a way that is authentic and true.
Health Associations: Responsible for the sensory apparatus of the body, including the lips, tongue, nose, mouth, and ears, as well as the vehicles of voice and breath like the larynx, pharynx, and throat. Also oversees the "integration" functions of the body through its command of metabolism through the thyroid gland, and through the coordination of the multitude of functions (e.g. chewing, swallowing, breathing, smelling, etc.) occurring in the throat area.
Throat Chakra Healing Foods: Sea plants, fruits, juices, soups, sauces, (which bring together different elements like water and earth), and foods from different ethnic groups (The throat chakra encourages variety of foods.)

6) The Third eye chakra is the seat of mystical, intuitive knowing that spirals forth the awareness that we are spiritual beings connected to universal wisdom and truth. A healthy third eye chakra will encourage the path of internal visions and dreams, with the realization that they are Divinely guided and inspired.
Third Eye Chakra Healing Foods: Caffeine, tea, chocolate, spices, wine, purple-red foods (purple potatoes, red onions, blackberries, blueberries, purple grapes, etc.)

7) The Crown chakra is home to the pure essence that connects to All That Is. A healthy crown chakra will manifest as the ability for individuals to be confident in their faith in a Higher Power, higher self, or in a force that is highly intelligent and creative.
Health Associations: Responsible for infusing the body with life force, allowing the entire individual to function as a divine creature, intelligent and connected to Spirit. Oversees the "electrical" functions of the body through the central nervous system.
Crown Chakra Healing Foods: Since the crown chakra is more "spirit" than "matter," it is not nourished with physical foods in the same way that they feed other chakras, but the crown chakra thrives on the sustenance that comes from sunlight, air, and love.

1st Chakra Colors: Red, black, dark brown, charcoal gray

Chakra Color: Orange

Chakra Color: Yellow


Chakra Colors: Green, rose, pink

Chakra Colors: Aquamarine, light blue

Chakra Colors: Indigo, violet

Health Associations: Responsible for hormone function and secretion, sleep/wake cycles, and dreaming. Oversees the "perception" functions of the body through the brain, eyes, and neurotransmitters.

Chakra Colors: White, lavender, pastel colors

Saturday, October 27, 2012

Signs of Emotional Vampires and How to Protect Yourself

Emotional vampires, also known as psychic vampires, are emotionally immature individuals who drain the time and energy from those around them. They are usually highly self-interested and lack empathy. The relationships they form are largely self serving. I call these "draining people" emotional vampires. They do more than drain your physical energy. The worst ones can make you believe you're unworthy and unlovable.

Relationships are always an energy exchange. To stay feeling our best, we must ask ourselves: Who gives us energy? Who saps it? It's important to be surrounded by supportive, loving people who make us feel safe and secure. It's equally important to pinpoint the emotional vampires, who, whether they intend to or not, suck our energy.

At first glance, energy vampires can seem highly attractive. They often are good-looking, bold, flamboyant or intelligent, and may appear to have a high opinion of you as indicated by their flattering attention. Drawing you into their inner circle may seem just the boost you need.

However, be aware that they are “grooming” you — setting you up to exploit you in whichever way best suits their purposes later. What seems quite innocent at first, such as finding a good friend, may lead you to compromise your ethics, morals and values against your will — maybe even breaking the law in due course. And because energy vampires are masters at avoiding responsibility, you could be the one who takes the blame when things go wrong.

To protect yourself, it's imperative to name and combat these emotional vampires. They're everywhere: coworkers, neighbors, family, and friends. In Energy Healing I've treated a revolving door of people who've been hit hard by drainers--truly a mental health epidemic that conventional medicine doesn't see! I'm shocked by how many of these "emotionally walking wounded" (ordinarily perceptive, intelligent individuals) have become resigned to anxiety or depression. Emotional draining is a touchy subject. We don't know how to tactfully address our needs without alienating others. The result: We get tongue-tied, or destructively passive. We ignore the SOS from our gut that screams, "Beware!" Or, shaking in our boots, we're so afraid of of appearing "aggressive" that we become martyrs in lieu of being respectfully assertive. We don't speak out because we don't want to be seen as "difficult" or uncaring.

Vampires do more than drain our physical energy. The super-malignant ones can make you believe you're an unworthy, unlovable person who doesn't deserve better. The subtler species inflict damage that's more of a slow burn. Smaller digs here and there can make you feel bad about yourself such as, I see that you've gained few pounds." In a flash, they've zapped you by prodding areas of shaky self-worth.

This is my take on emotional vampires: Their behavior are unacceptable; you must develop a successful plan for coping with them. I deeply believe that taking a stand against draining people is a form of self-care and self love that you must practice to give you freedom.

What turns someone into an emotional vampire? First, a psychological reason: children often mimic their parents' most unflattering traits. A self-absorbed mother/father can turn you into a self-absorbed son/daughter. Early modeling has impact. Studies of Holocaust survivors show that many became abusive parents themselves. The second explanation involves subtle energy. I've observed that childhood trauma--mistreatment, loss, parental alcoholism, illness--can weaken a person's energy field (aura). This energy leakage may condition those with such early wounds to draw on the vitality of others to compensate; it's not something most are aware of. Nevertheless, the effects can be extreme. Visualize an octopus-like tendril extending from their energy field and onto yours. Your intuition may register this as sadness, anger, fatigue, or anxiety. The degree of mood change or physical reaction may vary. A vampire's effects can stun like a sonic blast or make you slowly wilt. But it's the rare drainer that sets out to purposely enervate you. The majority act unconsciously, oblivious to being an emotional drain.

Let me tell you the secret of how a vampire operates so you can outsmart one. A vampire goes in for the kill by stirring up your emotions. Pushing your buttons throws you off center, which renders you easier to drain. Of all the emotional types, empaths are often the most devastated. However, certain emotional states increase everyone's vulnerability. I myself am most susceptible to emotional vampires when I feel desperate, exhausted, or dis-empowered.

Here are some others:
Low self-esteem
A victim mentality
Fear of asserting yourself
Addiction to people-pleasing

When encountering emotional vampires, see what you can learn too. It's your choice. You can simply feel tortured, resentful, and impotent. Or, as I try to do, ask yourself, "How can this interchange help me grow?" Every second of life, good, bad, or indifferent, is a chance to become emotionally freer and stronger.

Exercise 1: Determine If You Have an Emotional Vampire in Your Life

Anyone who has ever shared an office, carpool, or attended a family dinner with a vampire can attest to experiencing some common emotional side effects. Even after a brief contact, you feel worse; they feel better. To find out if you've been bled, watch for these signs.

You feel put down or like the rug was pulled out from under you
Your mood takes a nosedive
You have a desire to binge on comfort food
You feel sniped at or agitated
Have intuitive flashes or dreams

In addition, sometimes intuitive flashes and dreams can raise a red flag. Pay attention. Whether you're awake or asleep, notice telling imagery that conveys emotion. This will help you identify a vampire.

Take an inventory of the people in your life who are potential drainers. List all your key family members, friends and co-workers in the left hand column and check off if any of them have an adverse affect on you when in their company or on the phone. Experiencing even one of these effects indicates that person is a drain on the prowl. By doing this you become aware of who vibrates positive vibes and who doesn't.

Please feel free to share in the comments below if you've ever had an energy drainer and what you did to help yourself deal better. Looking forward to hearing from you!

With Love,

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